[Mr. NomNom]

Until court on jan 8th the judge told my ex and i we have to compromise for our daughter for the holidays. My ex had her thanksgiving only when i told her if she wants her the whole day like she wanted, then i wanted her xmas day. She ignored my txts until 1 p.m. on thanksgiving and said i wasn't getting her then said i can only have her from 7 pm xmas eve and until 10 a.m. xmas day. This is beyond stressful and i feel for anyone else who has to go through this. Tomorrow i am calling the courts and seeing if they can maybe talk to the judge to see if he can just sort it out.. she gets her all of next week. I told her she could have her on xmas until 3pm which is generous.


I personally don't think the judge will do anything but let her rule the iron fist because we haven't went to court. The only reason my ex wants her is because she knows i want her on that day. I hate to do it but i just feel like going for emotional stress or whatever it's called...as a father and just trying to get to see my kid and how much i have to actually fight for it is an awful thing. My ex has constantly used her as a weapon against me. It's the holidays and i shouldn't be this effing depressed.

[theblackboxlies]

Mr.NomNom, so sorry you have to deal with this. The holidays are stressful enough without a custody battle thrown into the mix. My big brother has to deal with this crap, though I think things have gotten a little more civil with he and his ex.

[Steph]

I'm sorry you have to deal with this Nom. My parents divorced when I was a year old, and as it probably wasn't civil (I have zero memory of that time obviously), they never used us against each other. How old is your daughter? She's the one stuck in the middle of this and I'm sure it's not much fun for her if she's old enough to understand what's going on. 

[Mr. NomNom]

She's two. My ex has jumped right into a relationship and is trying to let the new guy take over as a dad. I for one am not having it. My child constantly gets used as a weapon. The sad thing i tried a lot to compromise she keeps saying nk and it's her way or nothing at all. I just hope the judge can see she is abusing what power she has and fixes it.

[KidSeventySeven]

Damn Nom, I'm so sorry. Continue to document all that you can of her shitty behavior and keep your cool with any correspondence between the two of you, even if you're raging on the inside, and stick to any court appointed schedule they make for visitation rights. The more she shows her ways and the more stable you look, the better. My SIL lost custody of her son to her ex-husband for two years, and she is a nurse with a stable job, home and income, whereas he was unemployed, living with his parents, and actually missed a court date because he was in a psych facility after threatening to commit suicide and fired two bullets in his house, complete with police outside, weapons drawn. He had child pornography on his computer, sent her texts and emails threatening to kill her, blackmail her and run away with the kid...and this is just the tip of the iceberg. The judge told her he was taking away her primary custody because she violated the schedule they had set in place. (She stopped sending her son to his dad's because she was afraid he would hurt the kid or run away with him.) It took two years of her paying full child support and attending bullshit classes about co-parenting, and then the guy signed over parental rights because he wanted to move to Indiana with some chick he met on the internet. All that drama and damage done, and then he just walked away because the kid was cramping his style.

[Mr. NomNom]

What. The. Fuck. Idk how guys do that. Two of the best days of my life was 1) finding out my ex was pregnant and 2) the moment my little girl was born. I was hit a lot the problem was i never reported it because i knew she would leave and it's hard enough to gain custody even with those on her record. I try to hold out as long as possible to get married and wait for her to hit me this way i could just press charges and then divorce her. Ik thats a horrible thing to do but i couldn't get help in any other way.

Here's how i see it. (Trying not to get to political about it.)
They should do seperate cases, men who seem stable and want time with their kid against men who aren't stable and attend meetings...or counseling with perhaps the female( that could come later) i am tired of fetting thrown into the group of dead beats. What i am going through now is horrible, i think some guys just don't bother knowing how much they'll get screwed. I however will fight and fight.

[theblackboxlies]

She's two. My ex has jumped right into a relationship and is trying to let the new guy take over as a dad. I for one am not having it. My child constantly gets used as a weapon. The sad thing i tried a lot to compromise she keeps saying nk and it's her way or nothing at all. I just hope the judge can see she is abusing what power she has and fixes it.

 

This is why I am SO SO SO glad I did not have kids with my ex-wife. As nice as she is to me now, I would probably have had to deal with the bullshit you're going through. 

[limaro]

Ants are not a first world problem, CTNM.  They are a plague of biblical nastiness. Spray, bomb, stomp, poison and kill them by whatever means necessary.

[Mr. NomNom]

Do you know where they are coming from? I had ants at one point. I dropped cinnamon where they came into the house...they hate it...and i think coffee grounds. Try that.

[Mr. NomNom]

You may already know this. Chances are your place is right on top of an ant colony. I found out where they came from but putting a can of soda down...or something sweet. Wait about 30 mins....you'll find the trail/trails. Yea it's gross....but then you can play tornado and suck them up with a vacum cleaner. Lol. Then look up what ants hate. I know cinnamon is one and coffee. Put it right where they come in. They may stay away. No promises though.

[theblackboxlies]

I've heard cayenne pepper is an ant deterrent as well.

[JesusMonroe]

Yup. I kept getting SQL errors

[Logan5]

Had SQL errors all day yesterday but no problems so far today.

[Steph]

Yeah, I had a hard time getting on here too (though I've been away over Christmas so wasn't on much while I was gone). It's annoying as hell, it kept on lagging big time and not loading. 

[theblackboxlies]

I guess we're just all addicted to this forum, eh? 

[Mr. NomNom]

It snowed 2 days ago, But honestly did you have to drive 25 in a 55 when the roads are clear?? UGHHHH!!!

Also the ex decided to get a lawyer to battle me in court. So now it's me vs all of ohio because i can't affors one. Yay!!

[theblackboxlies]

Something Something Something about Wireless providers overcharging for cellphone something something. gah.

[D_Piece]

One of the construction guys took a fat shit and clogged the office toilet. This monster didn't even get halfway down the pipe before the toilet aborted mission imflushable. You could have at least tried to undo the damage, dude. Gross. 

[theblackboxlies]

Were there any pineapples involved?

[D_Piece]

(un)fortunately not. It was just the gigantic turd with no toilet paper. Dude didn't even wipe.

[KidSeventySeven]

So today I learned my son isn't allowed to say "Uranus" in science class when discussing the planets. Instead, they have to pronounce it "Urine-us".